Vous essayez de toujours « bien faire » mais vous n'êtes jamais satisfait et avez l'impression que les autres vous regardent de travers ? Brené Brown tord le cou aux idées reçues et vous donne la vraie clé de la plénitude : loin de la constante recherche de perfection, il faut apprendre à vous aimer vous-même !
Libérez-vous du perfectionnisme pour vivre une vie épanouie !
Dans cet ouvrage, vous apprendrez à :
Accepter votre vulnérabilité et vos faiblesses en vivant en accord avec vos émotions.
Cultiver l'authenticité, la compassion envers vous-même et un esprit résilient... mais aussi la joie, la créativité, l'intuition.
Renoncer à être toujours impeccable et à « plaire aux autres »... pour apprendre à vous aimer tel que vous êtes.
Chaque jour nous sommes confrontés à l'incertitude, aux risques et au regard des autres devant l'expression de nos émotions, ce qui définit le fait que nous soyons vulnérables ou capables d'oser avec audace. Se basant sur vingt années de recherche innovatrice, la Docteure Brené Brown réfute le mythe culturel voulant que la vulnérabilité est une faiblesse et elle affirme qu'en réalité, il s'agit de la mesure la plus exacte de notre courage. Dans un monde où le « jamais assez » domine et où ressentir la peur est presque devenu une deuxième nature, la vulnérabilité devient inconfortable, destructive et même un peu dangereuse parfois. Sans aucun doute, nous sortir de notre zone de confort et oser nous lancer entraîne un risque beaucoup plus grand d'être critiqués ou de nous sentir blessés. Mais Brené Brown explique que, lorsque nous nous coupons de la vulnérabilité, nous nous distancions des expériences qui confèrent un but et un sens à notre vie, et que rien n'est aussi incommodant et souffrant que de rester à l'écart, de regarder en soi et de se demander à quoi ça ressemblerait si nous avions le courage d'entrer dans l'arène.
In her #1 NYT bestsellers, Brene Brown taught us what it means to dare greatly, rise strong and brave the wilderness. Now, based on new research conducted with leaders, change makers and culture shifters, she's showing us how to put those ideas into practice so we can step up and lead.
Leadership is not about titles, status and power over people. Leaders are people who hold themselves accountable for recognising the potential in people and ideas, and developing that potential. This is a book for everyone who is ready to choose courage over comfort, make a difference and lead.
When we dare to lead, we don't pretend to have the right answers; we stay curious and ask the right questions. We don't see power as finite and hoard it; we know that power becomes infinite when we share it and work to align authority and accountability. We don't avoid difficult conversations and situations; we lean into the vulnerability that's necessary to do good work.
But daring leadership in a culture that's defined by scarcity, fear and uncertainty requires building courage skills, which are uniquely human. The irony is that we're choosing not to invest in developing the hearts and minds of leaders at the same time we're scrambling to figure out what we have to offer that machines can't do better and faster. What can we do better? Empathy, connection and courage to start.
Brene Brown spent the past two decades researching the emotions that give meaning to our lives. Over the past seven years, she found that leaders in organisations ranging from small entrepreneurial start-ups and family-owned businesses to non-profits, civic organisations and Fortune 50 companies, are asking the same questions:
How do you cultivate braver, more daring leaders? And, how do you embed the value of courage in your culture?
Dare to Lead answers these questions and gives us actionable strategies and real examples from her new research-based, courage-building programme.
Brene writes, 'One of the most important findings of my career is that courage can be taught, developed and measured. Courage is a collection of four skill sets supported by twenty-eight behaviours. All it requires is a commitment to doing bold work, having tough conversations and showing up with our whole hearts. Easy? No. Choosing courage over comfort is not easy. Worth it? Always. We want to be brave with our lives and work. It's why we're here.
NO. 1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER A timely and important book that challenges everything we think we know about cultivating true belonging in our communities, organizations, and culture, from the #1 bestselling author of Rising Strong, Daring Greatly, and The Gifts of Imperfection Dont miss the hourlong Netflix special Brené Brown: The Call to Courage ! HELLO SUNSHINE BOOK CLUB PICK True belonging doesnt require us to change who we are. It requires us to be who we are. Social scientist Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW, has sparked a global conversation about the experiences that bring meaning to our lives--experiences of courage, vulnerability, love, belonging, shame, and empathy. In Braving the Wilderness, Brown redefines what it means to truly belong in an age of increased polarization. With her trademark mix of research, storytelling, and honesty, Brown will again change the cultural conversation while mapping a clear path to true belonging. Brown argues that were experiencing a spiritual crisis of disconnection, and introduces four practices of true belonging that challenge everything we believe about ourselves and each other. She writes, True belonging requires us to believe in and belong to ourselves so fully that we can find sacredness both in being a part of something and in standing alone when necessary. But in a culture thats rife with perfectionism and pleasing, and with the erosion of civility, its easy to stay quiet, hide in our ideological bunkers, or fit in rather than show up as our true selves and brave the wilderness of uncertainty and criticism. But true belonging is not something we negotiate or accomplish with others; its a daily practice that demands integrity and authenticity. Its a personal commitment that we carry in our hearts. Brown offers us the clarity and courage we need to find our way back to ourselves and to each other. And that path cuts right through the wilderness. Brown writes, The wilderness is an untamed, unpredictable place of solitude and searching. It is a place as dangerous as it is breathtaking, a place as sought after as it is feared. But it turns out to be the place of true belonging, and its the bravest and most sacred place you will ever stand.
Thanks to Brene Brown I learned how to be vulnerable... a life changer' Miranda Hart The physics of vulnerability is simple: If we are brave enough often enough, we will fall. This is a book about what it takes to get back up and how owning our stories of disappointment, failure, and heartbreak gives us the power to write a daring new ending. Struggle can be our greatest call to courage and Rising Strong, our clearest path to deeper meaning, wisdom and hope.
**Now on Netflix as The Call to Courage ** Every time we are introduced to someone new, try to be creative, or start a difficult conversation, we take a risk. We feel uncertain and exposed. We feel vulnerable. Most of us try to fight those feelings - we strive to appear perfect. In a powerful new vision Dr Brene Brown challenges everything we think we know about vulnerability, and dispels the widely accepted myth that it's a weakness. She argues that, in truth, vulnerability is strength and when we shut ourselves off from vulnerability - from revealing our true selves - we distance ourselves from the experiences that bring purpose and meaning to our lives. Daring Greatly is the culmination of 12 years of groundbreaking social research, across every area of our lives including home, relationships, work, and parenting. It is an invitation to be courageous; to show up and let ourselves be seen, even when there are no guarantees. This is vulnerability. This is daring greatly.
#1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER When we deny our stories, they define us. When we own our stories, we get to write the ending. Dont miss the hourlong Netflix special Brené Brown: The Call to Courage ! Social scientist Brené Brown has ignited a global conversation on courage, vulnerability, shame, and worthiness. Her pioneering work uncovered a profound truth: Vulnerability--the willingness to show up and be seen with no guarantee of outcome--is the only path to more love, belonging, creativity, and joy. But living a brave life is not always easy: We are, inevitably, going to stumble and fall. It is the rise from falling that Brown takes as her subject in Rising Strong . As a grounded theory researcher, Brown has listened as a range of people--from leaders in Fortune 500 companies and the military to artists, couples in long-term relationships, teachers, and parents--shared their stories of being brave, falling, and getting back up. She asked herself, What do these people with strong and loving relationships, leaders nurturing creativity, artists pushing innovation, and clergy walking with people through faith and mystery have in common? The answer was clear: They recognize the power of emotion and theyre not afraid to lean in to discomfort. Walking into our stories of hurt can feel dangerous. But the process of regaining our footing in the midst of struggle is where our courage is tested and our values are forged. Our stories of struggle can be big ones, like the loss of a job or the end of a relationship, or smaller ones, like a conflict with a friend or colleague. Regardless of magnitude or circumstance, the rising strong process is the same: We reckon with our emotions and get curious about what were feeling; we rumble with our stories until we get to a place of truth; and we live this process, every day, until it becomes a practice and creates nothing short of a revolution in our lives. Rising strong after a fall is how we cultivate wholeheartedness. Its the process, Brown writes, that teaches us the most about who we are. ONE OF GREATER GOOD S FAVORITE BOOKS OF THE YEAR [Brené Browns] research and work have given us a new vocabulary, a way to talk with each other about the ideas and feelings and fears weve all had but havent quite known how to articulate. . . . Brené empowers us each to be a little more courageous. --The Huffington Post
In her latest book, five-time #1 New York Times bestselling author Dr Brene Brown, writes, "If we want to find the way back to ourselves and each other, we need language and the grounded confidence to both tell our stories, and to be stewards of the stories that we hear. This is the framework for meaningful connection." In Atlas of the Heart , Brown takes us on a journey through 87 of the emotions and experiences that define what it means to be human. As she maps the necessary skills and lays out an actionable framework for meaningful connection, she gives us the language and tools to access a universe of new choices and second chances - a universe where we can share and steward the stories of our bravest and most heart-breaking moments with one another in a way that builds connection. Over the past two decades, Brown''s extensive research into the experiences that make us who we are has shaped the cultural conversation and helped define what it means to be courageous with our lives. Atlas of the Heart draws on this research, as well as Brown''s singular skills as a researcher/storyteller, to lay out an invaluable, research-based framework that shows us that naming an experience doesn''t give the experience more power, it gives us the power of understanding, meaning and choice. Brown shares, "I want this to be an atlas for all of us, because I believe that, with an adventurous heart and the right maps, we can travel anywhere and never fear losing ourselves. Even when we have no idea where we are."
Nous avons en horreur la vulnérabilité. Nous voulons être parfaits, puissants, sûrs de nous. Nous croyons que la distance, la froideur, l'inaccessibilité et la maîtrise contribuent à notre prestige.
Que nous serions mésestimés si nous venions à être trop ouverts.
Nous adoptons l'anxiété en tant que style de vie, la productivité en tant que valeur essentielle, et le perfectionnisme en tant qu'idéal.
Et si la vulnérabilité n'était pas une faiblesse, mais au contraire signe de force et de courage ? Car à trop vouloir être parfaits, nous avons peur de l'échec et éprouvons un sentiment d'insuffisance. Nous endossons notre armure avant de pénétrer dans l'arène de la vie, en sacrifiant des relations et des opportunités qui ne reviendront pas. Nous gaspillons un temps précieux en tournant le temps à nos dons merveilleux.
Alors plutôt que de rester assis sur le banc de touche, et d'émettre sans cesse des jugements et des conseils, mieux vaut oser se découvrir et accepter d'être vulnérable. Vivre de manière entière, en troquant le culte du contrôle contre le lâcher-prise et l'ouverture émotionnelle.
Oser être vulnérable, c'est cela le courage.
Qu'ont donc en commun...
- ces couples qui entretiennent une relation solide ;
- ces parents qui tissent des liens profonds avec leurs enfants ;
- ou encore, ces dirigeants qui inspirent la confiance ?
La réponse est claire : ils reconnaissent le pouvoir des émotions et n'ont pas peur d'affronter l'adversité. Et comme vous et moi, ces personnes aussi peuvent connaître une période de chômage, perdre un être cher, faire face à un divorce... Mais elles se relèvent.
Comment reprendre pied et surmonter les épreuves ? La démarche est toujours la même : prenez en compte vos émotions et intéressez-vous à vos sentiments ; remettez en question votre subjectivité pour parvenir à la vérité ; et pratiquez cette démarche au quotidien, jusqu'à ce qu'elle se transforme en habitude et aboutisse à une révolution personnelle.
Grâce à des exercices mais aussi à de nombreux témoignages d'hommes et de femmes épanouis et qui parviennent à rebondir après la chute, vous apprendrez vous aussi à affronter l'adversité et à vous relever, encore et encore.
An upcoming book to be published by Penguin Random House.
Dans cet ouvrage, Brené Brown, une spécialiste réputée sur le sentiment de honte, l'authenticité et le sentiment d'appartenance, propose dix conseils sur le pouvoir d'une vie sans réserve, ancrée dans la pleine affirmation de soi. Ce livre essentiel porte sur la quête de toute une vie, depuis le « Que va-t-on penser de moi ? » jusqu'au sentiment d'être bien tel qu'on est. Grâce à sa capacité unique à intégrer la recherche érudite à une narration sincère, la lecture de "La grâce de l'imperfection" ressemble à un édifiant et long dialogue avec un ami avisé qui offre compassion, sagesse et judicieux conseils.
Jetez votre perfectionnisme aux orties pour vivre une vie épanouie ! Vous essayez de toujours "bien faire" mais vous n'êtes jamais satisfait et avez l'impression que les autres vous regardent de travers : le dossier que vous venez de rendre à votre chef pourrait être plus clair, votre dîner n'est pas cuit exactement comme il le faut ! Ah, si seulement vous étiez plus performant, vous seriez enfin heureux.
Et si vous faisiez fausse route ? Brené Brown tord le cou aux idées reçues et vous donne la vraie clé de la plénitude : loin de la constante recherche de perfection que nous nous imposons sans cesse, il faut apprendre à s'aimer soi-même !
Abandonnez l'idée d'être toujours impeccable et de vouloir "plaire aux autres". Commencez plutôt par accepter votre côté vulnérable, vos faiblesses, et apprenez à vivre en accord avec vos émotions.
Découvrez comment cultiver l'authenticité, un esprit résilient et la compassion envers vous-même mais aussi la joie, la créativité, l'intuition ! Lâchez prise sur ce que vous pensez devoir être et soyez qui vous êtes !
#1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER A timely and important book that challenges everything we think we know about cultivating true belonging in our communities, organizations, and culture, from the #1 bestselling author of Rising Strong, Daring Greatly, and The Gifts of Imperfection Dont miss the hourlong Netflix special Brené Brown: The Call to Courage ! HELLO SUNSHINE BOOK CLUB PICK True belonging doesnt require us to change who we are. It requires us to be who we are. Social scientist Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW, has sparked a global conversation about the experiences that bring meaning to our lives--experiences of courage, vulnerability, love, belonging, shame, and empathy. In Braving the Wilderness, Brown redefines what it means to truly belong in an age of increased polarization. With her trademark mix of research, storytelling, and honesty, Brown will again change the cultural conversation while mapping a clear path to true belonging. Brown argues that were experiencing a spiritual crisis of disconnection, and introduces four practices of true belonging that challenge everything we believe about ourselves and each other. She writes, True belonging requires us to believe in and belong to ourselves so fully that we can find sacredness both in being a part of something and in standing alone when necessary. But in a culture thats rife with perfectionism and pleasing, and with the erosion of civility, its easy to stay quiet, hide in our ideological bunkers, or fit in rather than show up as our true selves and brave the wilderness of uncertainty and criticism. But true belonging is not something we negotiate or accomplish with others; its a daily practice that demands integrity and authenticity. Its a personal commitment that we carry in our hearts. Brown offers us the clarity and courage we need to find our way back to ourselves and to each other. And that path cuts right through the wilderness. Brown writes, The wilderness is an untamed, unpredictable place of solitude and searching. It is a place as dangerous as it is breathtaking, a place as sought after as it is feared. But it turns out to be the place of true belonging, and its the bravest and most sacred place you will ever stand.
La véritable appartenance n'a rien à voir avec se conformer, faire semblant ou mettre les personnes en confiance autour de nous parce que c'est sans risque. Les quatre pratiques de la véritable appartenance nous demandent d'être vulnérables, de nous sentir mal à l'aise et d'apprendre à être avec des gens sans sacrifier qui nous sommes et ce que nous valorisons. Chaque pratique remet en question ce que nous pensons de nous-mêmes, comment nous nous révélons les uns aux autres, et comment nous retrouvons le courage et nos liens. Les gens sont difficiles à haïr de près. Rapprochez-vous. - Contrez les conneries avec la vérité. Soyez poli. - Tenez-vous la main. Avec des étrangers. - Dos fort. Devant doux. Coeur sauvage. La véritable appartenance et l'estime de soi ne sont pas des biens ; nous ne négocions pas leur valeur avec le monde. La vérité sur ce que nous sommes réside dans notre coeur. Notre appel au courage vise à protéger notre coeur sauvage contre l'évaluation constante, surtout la nôtre.
#1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER Brené Brown has taught us what it means to dare greatly, rise strong, and brave the wilderness. Now, based on new research conducted with leaders, change makers, and culture shifters, shes showing us how to put those ideas into practice so we can step up and lead. Dont miss the hourlong Netflix special Brené Brown: The Call to Courage ! NAMED ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR BY BLOOMBERG Leadership is not about titles, status, and wielding power. A leader is anyone who takes responsibility for recognizing the potential in people and ideas, and has the courage to develop that potential. When we dare to lead, we dont pretend to have the right answers; we stay curious and ask the right questions. We dont see power as finite and hoard it; we know that power becomes infinite when we share it with others. We dont avoid difficult conversations and situations; we lean into vulnerability when its necessary to do good work. But daring leadership in a culture defined by scarcity, fear, and uncertainty requires skill-building around traits that are deeply and uniquely human. The irony is that were choosing not to invest in developing the hearts and minds of leaders at the exact same time as were scrambling to figure out what we have to offer that machines and AI cant do better and faster. What can we do better? Empathy, connection, and courage, to start. Four-time #1 New York Times bestselling author Brené Brown has spent the past two decades studying the emotions and experiences that give meaning to our lives, and the past seven years working with transformative leaders and teams spanning the globe. She found that leaders in organizations ranging from small entrepreneurial startups and family-owned businesses to nonprofits, civic organizations, and Fortune 50 companies all ask the same question: How do you cultivate braver, more daring leaders, and how do you embed the value of courage in your culture? In this new book, Brown uses research, stories, and examples to answer these questions in the no-BS style that millions of readers have come to expect and love. Brown writes, One of the most important findings of my career is that daring leadership is a collection of four skill sets that are 100 percent teachable, observable, and measurable. Its learning and unlearning that requires brave work, tough conversations, and showing up with your whole heart. Easy? No. Because choosing courage over comfort is not always our default. Worth it? Always. We want to be brave with our lives and our work. Its why were here. Whether youve read Daring Greatly and Rising Strong or youre new to Brené Browns work, this book is for anyone who wants to step up and into brave leadership.
#1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER Brené Brown has taught us what it means to dare greatly, rise strong, and brave the wilderness. Now, based on new research conducted with leaders, change makers, and culture shifters, shes showing us how to put those ideas into practice so we can step up and lead. Dont miss the hourlong Netflix special Brené Brown: The Call to Courage ! NAMED ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR BY BLOOMBERG Leadership is not about titles, status, and wielding power. A leader is anyone who takes responsibility for recognizing the potential in people and ideas, and has the courage to develop that potential. When we dare to lead, we dont pretend to have the right answers; we stay curious and ask the right questions. We dont see power as finite and hoard it; we know that power becomes infinite when we share it with others. We dont avoid difficult conversations and situations; we lean into vulnerability when its necessary to do good work. But daring leadership in a culture defined by scarcity, fear, and uncertainty requires skill-building around traits that are deeply and uniquely human. The irony is that were choosing not to invest in developing the hearts and minds of leaders at the exact same time as were scrambling to figure out what we have to offer that machines and AI cant do better and faster. What can we do better? Empathy, connection, and courage, to start. Four-time #1 New York Times bestselling author Brené Brown has spent the past two decades studying the emotions and experiences that give meaning to our lives, and the past seven years working with transformative leaders and teams spanning the globe. She found that leaders in organizations ranging from small entrepreneurial startups and family-owned businesses to nonprofits, civic organizations, and Fortune 50 companies all ask the same question: How do you cultivate braver, more daring leaders, and how do you embed the value of courage in your culture? In this new book, Brown uses research, stories, and examples to answer these questions in the no-BS style that millions of readers have come to expect and love. Brown writes, One of the most important findings of my career is that daring leadership is a collection of four skill sets that are 100 percent teachable, observable, and measurable. Its learning and unlearning that requires brave work, tough conversations, and showing up with your whole heart. Easy? No. Because choosing courage over comfort is not always our default. Worth it? Always. We want to be brave with our lives and our work. Its why were here. Whether youve read Daring Greatly and Rising Strong or youre new to Brené Browns work, this book is for anyone who wants to step up and into brave leadership.
Researcher, thought leader, and New York Times bestselling author Brené Brown offers a liberating study on the importance of our imperfections--both to our relationships and to our own sense of self The quest for perfection is exhausting and unrelenting. There is a constant barrage of social expectations that teach us that being imperfect is synonymous with being inadequate. Everywhere we turn, there are messages that tell us who, what and how were supposed to be. So, we learn to hide our struggles and protect ourselves from shame, judgment, criticism and blame by seeking safety in pretending and perfection. Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW, is the leading authority on the power of vulnerability, and has inspired thousands through her top-selling books Daring Greatly , Rising Strong , and The Gifts of Imperfection , her wildly popular TEDx talks, and a PBS special. Based on seven years of her ground-breaking research and hundreds of interviews, I Thought It Was Just Me shines a long-overdue light on an important truth: Our imperfections are what connect us to each other and to our humanity. Our vulnerabilities are not weaknesses; they are powerful reminders to keep our hearts and minds open to the reality that were all in this together. Brown writes, We need our lives back. Its time to reclaim the gifts of imperfection--the courage to be real, the compassion we need to love ourselves and others, and the connection that gives true purpose and meaning to life. These are the gifts that bring love, laughter, gratitude, empathy and joy into our lives.
Dans cet ouvrage, Brené Brown, une spécialiste réputée de la psychologie et des relations humaines, qui a étudié pendant plus de dix ans les sentiments de vulnérabilité, de courage, de mérite et de honte, propose 10 conseils sur le pouvoir d'une vie ancrée dans la pleine affirmation de soi. Ce livre essentiel porte sur la quête de toute une vie, depuis le « Que va-t-on penser de moi ? » jusqu'au sentiment d'être bien tel qu'on est.
La honte est une émotion universelle. Elle exerce du pouvoir sur nous. Mais si nous trouvons le courage, nous pouvons changer notre manière de vivre, d'aimer, d'éduquer, de travailler et de nouer des relations.
Ce livre propose des informations, des concepts et des stratégies spécifiques pour comprendre la honte et bâtir « une résilience à la honte ».
C'est la honte qui mène à détester son corps, à craindre le rejet, à cesser de prendre des risques et à dissimuler des épisodes de sa vie de crainte d'être jugé.
Les fondements de la résilience de la honte : empathie, courage, compassion, lien.
Les 4 composantes de la résilience à la honte : - Identifier la honte et comprendre ses déclencheurs - Exercer le sens critique - Se rapprocher - Exprimer la honte A l'aide d'exemples tirés de la vie quotidienne (relations, famille, enfants, travail, etc.), l'auteur nous aide à franchir le cap pour oser parler de sa honte et surtout de la surmonter grâce à de nombreux conseils.